Let Midnightdivas give you insight into the female mind with great advice on how to bring lingerie into your bedroom. Scroll down to see what she said!
For today’s question, I thought it might be best to get a woman’s perspective. When is the best time to wear lingerie?
Are we talking time of day or time of relationship?
It sounds like the asker is in a situation where they’ve asked their partner to put on lingerie and they’ve been shut down. This sounds like a question a woman should answer.
However, you want to read into it!
Well, I prefer my lingerie to be worn at night. 😛 But let’s break this down. If this is an online hookup, and you’re both
What about a relationship?
I always liked including lingerie as a sexy surprise for my guy. Say you’ve been dating for a few months, the sex is still new and exciting, but you wanna amp it up. You gave me a tip once that I’m going to use, don’t go out the gate with the
But how do you feel when a guy asks you to put on lingerie? Does it bother you?
No, it’s never bothered me because I’m usually the one asking first. I
Have you ever been asked? I have and I find it annoying.
I actually haven’t because it’s usually me asking. But because of my personality, if someone asked me, I’d be excited.
This could be asking for a lot, but the guy needs to read the room. If you know your partner just had a really sh
So you almost have to be in the midst of foreplay or a makeout session before even asking.
Right, it’s not really dinner conversation. It’s not sitting on the couch at the end of the day watching a movie in your pajamas. It’s not we’re getting ready to go to bed in a 20 minute conversation.
That’s a good point. It’s difficult to ask somebody to put something sexy on if they’ve already changed into comfy clothes for the evening.
It’s like asking a friend to go out in the evening and she’s already taken off her bra and put on sweats. She’s in for the night.
And that’s what I do the second I walk into my house. Don’t ask me to do anything! You have to ask me at lunch.
It’s one of those things women probably need to think about in advance.
It is. I don’t know how a lot of other women are, but for example, it’s Friday night. I have no plans. That means the second I walk through my
So if you had a boyfriend you’d say no.
Exactly. But if he’s thinking about lingerie, he should say something. I love that idea of my guy sending me a text saying “I’ve been thinking about that red lace piece you have. You should put that on when I come home.” That would be an awesome idea! And then you can build from there. That’s a great way to get your girl to wear lingerie
Even if she’s having a bad day, that could plant the seed in her mind. She may do it.
And that’s what makes women feel AMAZING. When they know their guy is thinking about them! It’s even hotter when a guy picks out a specific piece.
But still, read the room! If she’s been working her @ss off or even taking care of the kids, and you see she’s exhausted, that’s where the pampering your lady comes in handy.
Use common sense! Sometimes by the end of the day, I just want to be alone.
Exactly. If your lady is the type who wants physical touches, that’s fine. If she’s the one who wants alone time, give her space. You
Another good point, knowing your person and their love language.
It all circles back to communication and knowing your partner. We don’t want our men getting their heads chewed off! You should know your partner well enough by now. Hopefully.
So when is the best time, overall, to ask?
Text in the middle of the day and plant the seed, or ask during the
And when is the definite “NO” moment?
When you can tell she’s had a hard day with the kids, or if she had a hard day at work, or just in general. You can see she’s exhausted. That’s when you should take care of her and not have her take care of you.
Know your lady’s visual cues. If she’s watching trash TV with a glass of wine with her hair in a bun, she probably doesn’t want to be disturbed.
And if she’s watching Fifty Shades of
Can you think of anything else for when’s the best time to wear lingerie?
Final advice, read the room. That’s how it goes. Every woman is different.
Do you have any advice for the women in this situation?
If you’re willing to explore lingerie in a
Just because he’s yours doesn’t mean you win!
Surprise your partner every so often! Shoot him a text saying you have a sexy surprise for him later. Take close up images of the lingerie you’re thinking of wearing. And be wearing it when he gets home! The best thing ever is answering the door for your guy in lingerie.
And make sure it’s them and not the pizza guy.
That’s how porn